I grew up extremely conscious of how I look. People used to tell me that I was too big, that I needed to close my mouth while smiling because it was too gummy, that I was too loud. For a long time, I wouldn’t smile widely, I tried to hide my big frame in a multitude of ways, I lost weight unhealthily just because. I even told myself to shut up.
But being a successful woman is more than just being a pretty face, and the path to success goes further than fitting into what fashion holds holy, or what people expect you to be. It’s about being involved in something bigger than ourselves, and being passionate about something that gives our lives purpose and direction. Intelligence, wit, courage, kindness, resilience – these all matter as well.
I’ve learnt not to apologise for who I am, for making my presence known, for using what I have to create a difference in lives. I smile widely now because it makes me happy, and I’ve been told during my travels that my smile can brighten someone’s day.
Don’t get me wrong. It doesn’t have to be an either or thing – I love wearing pretty skirts and dresses, and I swear by red lipstick, but by God, I’m more than that. I refuse to be defined by anything, heck not even by my travels, because nothing is capable enough of containing all that I am.
Don’t limit yourself either. Be the best you can ever be. Smile a little wider and be big. Shine so bright that nobody can ignore you as your light their way, whether they like it or not. The world needs more people who are beautiful and rich in more ways than the convention. Mediocrity doesn’t make the world a better place. Living a full life does. You are worthy – let’s not waste away a life just to wake up regretting the what-ifs one day.
I’ve been receiving so much love in the form of emails & messages, and I cannot thank you enough. They mean so much to me. ❤️
You mean so much to the world – don’t waste your chance at doing good. ❤️