The good people at TheShawlLabel requested that I wrote a post to share with fellow sisters around the world who are struggling, and I cannot be any more honoured to do so.
I know you are struggling.
I also know the last thing you’d like to hear right now is “Everything is going to be ok.”
Of course, you know that. You know everything is going to be ok – you just don’t know how things will work out and how long it’ll take. You don’t know if you’re going to last long enough before you break. You don’t know how to feel.
So I’m not going to tell you that. I’m going to tell you something else.
I’m going to tell you that whatever you are feeling is valid. All the fear, sadness, anger and whatever else you are feeling – they are valid and real. They make you human. It isn’t your fault.
I’m also going to tell you that you are not alone.
I’m struggling too. I know of at least 5 other people who are struggling hard as well. We’re all fighting our own battles on a daily basis, much of them unseen to the public eye. Some of us are struggling with depression, anxiety or some other form of mental illness, others are struggling through a death, divorce or a break-up, and some more are struggling with the wait for marriage or a child. The list goes on.
So believe me, you’re not alone.
Whatever you are feeling is valid and makes you human. Stop running away from it. Allowing yourself to feel everything empowers you; what you are able to face no longer controls you.
You see, God never asked that we be constantly happy or excited. He didn’t say we are never to feel hurt, pain or despair. He was the one who created us – He made us human, and humans aren’t meant to be perfect or unfeeling. Even the Prophet pbuh felt love, sadness and fear. He mourned the death of his first wife when Saiyidina Khadijah passed away.
All Allah asks is for us to be patient, repentant and grateful.
When Allah tests you it is never to destroy you. When He removes something in your possession, it is only in order to empty your hands for an even greater gift! – Ibn al-Qayyim
So feel what you must, but don’t be enslaved by it. Your challenges do not define your worth nor your identity.
Now, what if I then told you that you are capable of transforming into something greater? What if I told you that you are exactly where you are meant to be, and that you are prepared to carry the weight of the trial you are going through right now? What if I told you that whatever you are facing is His gift to you, His beloved?
A beautiful gift especially chosen for you – except it doesn’t come wrapped nicely with a ribbon on top.
This is His invitation to you – to be closer to Him, to grow beyond what you believe to be possible, and to prepare you for greater things.
I know it’s easy to say all these and allow the winds to carry it without weight, so here are some practical steps to take to embrace His gifts, even when you feel unworthy.
Read the rest of the article, with tips on how you can transform your pain into greatness, at: http://blog.theshawllabel.com/practical-steps-to-embrace-his-gifts-even-when-youre-struggling/
May it be of benefit!
Lots of love,